What about our young people?
“I wanted to do more than just keep them safe for one more night. I wanted to work with the young person and the parents earlier in the hope of avoiding all those years of pain and suffering.”
Carole Hanstede offering confidential, affordable and flexible counselling services in the wider Dayboro and Samford areas.
As a mother of a pair of t(w)eeners myself, I often wonder how best to help our kids develop positive self image and healthy ways of coping.
Whilst working for LifeLine I have spent many, many hours trying to comfort, support and keep safe numerous young people struggling with suicidal thoughts, self harm, eating disorders, panic attacks, depression, drug and alcohol abuse, etc.
Many of these kids were seeing psychologist, psychiatrists, taking medications, etc. but because things had escalated to the point where the young person had developed such self loathing and bad coping mechanisms, trying to improve their general well being was a real struggle and the approach taken with most of them was simply to try and keep them safe for another day.
It often made me wonder how things got so bad for these young people at such a young age. I wanted to do more than just keep them safe for one more night. I wanted to work with the young person and the parents earlier in the hope of avoiding all those years of pain and suffering.
Quite often we see the warning signs in our children way before they become teenagers. We notice panic attacks, trouble sleeping, low self image, aggression, struggles to make and maintain friendships, bullying. But we feel very reluctant to take our child to a GP for a mental health assessment and we struggle on in the hope of things improving by themselves…and maybe they will.
However, there is something more pro-active we can do as parents. We can engage the services of a counsellor. Someone that can become another trusted adult in your child’s life, that they can talk to about what is troubling them, they can trust and who will work with them and their parents on developing a more positive self image, stronger social skills and better coping strategies. It never ceases to amaze me what a difference even a small number of counselling session can make in a person’s life.
Carole is a Member of the Australian Counselling Association and she can meet you in Samford, Dayboro, come to your place or provide support via phone or email. For more details ring Carole on 0412132784 or email [email protected].